Oh what an honor it used to be; to be the one female you’d call upon during your most trying times to comfort you. I used to feel so special rubbing your head as you confessed your deepest pains and fears. But as fun as being the girl who sits on the sidelines of all your daily rituals, like playin ball at the courts, streetfighter tournaments, and high freestyle sessions may be, it also has quite a few drawbacks. Sure I may get to be myself, just ‘one of the guys”, but what incentive do you have to romance me, to be as intrigued by me as you are by that girl you’re “still not over” or are currently chasing after when you know that I enjoy your company enough to accept just goofin’ off around the crib just as long as we’re together? So sick of discovering after I give you my all that you’re just not ready, still have baggage you’re dealing with or just aren’t looking to settle down. And frankly, hearing that you ‘value my friendship too much to ever risk fucking it up’ is a crock of shit. Because if the right person came along, anyone would be willing to settle down. Let’s face it, its not that you don’t wanna be with anyone, its that you don’t want to be with me.
“All girls ever want is for guys to spend money on em, they don’t know what they want, they all like mind games – blah fucking blah” You continued talking like that in the car yesterday as if I’m not even a female. How painful it was hearing you whine about how its so hard to find intelligent, genuine, sweet, REAL girls these days when I really wanted to scream ”I’m right here!” You sat there and listed all the characteristics you wish you could find in a girl completely oblivious to the fact that the girl you were desribing was sitting directly across from you praying a light bulb would go off and you’d realize it. And then it hit me. Our closeness has reached such a level of comfort that I’m pretty sure I’ve been placed in the comfy friend zone for good. Another one bites the dust. How does this always happen with the dudes that I really like?! Always the best friend and nothing more.
They say you can’t turn a bad girl good…
But once a good girls gone bad, she’s gone forever.
You’ll mourn forever. Shit, you gotta live with the fact you did me wrong forever.
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June 23rd, 2009 at 2:09 pm
ha
June 23rd, 2009 at 2:09 pm
June 23rd, 2009 at 3:52 pm
Let him go. He’s made the choice for you. Take it from one who’s been through this.
It only gets worse from here.
June 23rd, 2009 at 3:55 pm
the grey area aka friend zone aka area 52 aka what the hell was i thinking when i didn’t try to be romantic with her/or him bka the damnit zone…. shoot i think i founded that zone so if you have any questions feel free to twit, blogg or facebook me and i’ll shoot you the rules to staying away from the friend zone!!!!
June 23rd, 2009 at 4:16 pm
yeah… let the shit go alexis… go work on your dream of becoming a superstar in hoolywood some where going to LA parties and night clubs like you do in NYC…
June 23rd, 2009 at 5:09 pm
smh. shit happened to me. dude & i were mad close… i nvr shit bc im like “its so fcking obvious that im feelin you” & just like that hed complain about that there were no “good girls” around.. yet when id date.. i could hint that he would kinda dwntalk dudes.. then nxt thing i know? he got a girlfriend! & not just some lil bih he was talking to… but a fullblown gf… then wanna admit he was feelin it.. but @ the same time rubbin it in my face certain things about his girl. shit hurts. i do knw one thing tho: let the shit go. bc as soon as youre good.. as soon as you aint even thinking about that nigga anymore… hes going to want you. & i still say Keep it Movin. he had his chance. if hes too slow to realize it, muthafck it. my bad for the novella here lmao
June 23rd, 2009 at 5:22 pm
Girl! I was in the same position for years. Be positive. He will get it. I am marring my best friend. It took him 5 years to relize I was right across from him!! Then when he decided he wanted more. I was the one saying I valued our friendship to take anything futher. Which was the truth at the time. I didn’t want to risk losing him for a year of dating. Then BAM it happened and now we are happy together for 5 years. We all know boys are dumb as shit!
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June 24th, 2009 at 12:09 am
sounds like theres alot of story behind this, pain and what not. I like this tho. ha I like how you flipped the Hov line at the end, good shit B
June 24th, 2009 at 6:39 pm
test
June 24th, 2009 at 8:02 pm
Maybe he not lying about the settling down thing because a lot of dudes want what he was describing but know all the req. that come along with that. & i have no idea y guys think being in a relationship is the equivalent of being in a chock-hold. but they do, and eventually one day they will realize u or whatever girl “friend” was what they were looking for and you’ll either be living happily ever after with him or the dude that realized it first.
June 24th, 2009 at 9:19 pm
You and I have had the same exact problem, well kinda. I’ve been on both sides I’ve been that friend and I’ve been the guy who didn’t want turn the corner with a female. Honestly from the guys perspective who didn’t want to ruin the friendship; that’s a genuine feeling. I really love my friends despite their sex and in the instances where it does happen to be a female I try to keep it strictly that, friends. I have one friend in particular that I LOVE to death but she is like my biggest confidant and need her for that. I often feel like she wants more and I’ve considered it but call me selfish I’m not losing what we already have. It’s not how she looks or acts and as you are a beautiful young lady I’m sure that hasn’t been the case either. It’s just a comfort zone that you fall into and never want to leave. Losing that person would be like losing a limb; sure you can move on without it but it just won’t be the same.
July 18th, 2009 at 8:07 pm
that’s real shit..”when youi die make sure ppl miss you”